Qualitative Investigation into the Perception towards Compassionate Parenting among Parents of Autistic Children: Cross-Cultural Comparison between the UK and The Netherlands
Abstract
:1. Introduction
1.1. Parenting Styles
1.2. How Culture Influences Parenting
1.3. Study Aims
2. Materials and Methods
2.1. Study Design
2.2. Participants
2.3. Procedure
2.4. Thematic Analysis
3. Results
3.1. Theme 1: A View That Compassionate Parenting Is Important
Participant 3 (UK): “I don’t understand any parenting without compassion, I think compassionate parenting leads to that kind of development, it’s very important.”
Participant 11 (NL): “It’s important for anticipating his emotions and trying to understand why he is reacting the way he does. And try to be a step ahead of how he will react and try to understand whenever he reacts in one way or another, why he is behaving this way. What are the triggers that are bringing him to that and of course I will try to avoid those triggers? I tried to figure out if there’s anything I can do to help him and keep him happy.”
Participant 9 (NL): “The negative part is, there are days that it helps, then there are days it does not help, and there’s nothing you can do about it.” (This refers to the child experiencing a meltdown or when the child is behaving aggressively and uncontrollably).
3.2. Theme 2: Compassionate Parenting Improves Quality of Life
Participant 2 (UK): “When I’m brushing my daughter’s hair, I have to have some understanding that it hurts her, it shouldn’t but it does and it upsets her, so you just have to be gentle and take time and try not to be in a rush. So, I am compassionate in that way but when she is having a meltdown, you have to really realise that sometimes you just need to sit with her and hold her tight and stay with her and say nothing, what’s more important.” This extract demonstrates how the compassionate understanding of the child led to de-escalating a meltdown and created an opportunity for the deep connection between parent and child.
Participant 6 (UK): “So, we’re going to the supermarket, and I thought this is great, he’s enjoying it and he’s having a great time. Then he started to say, I want this, I want that, and I’m thinking oh no, how do I say no here. I want to give him everything, but I can’t give him everything every time. But I can’t say no, so that was really difficult. I ended up having to be compassionate and learn how to go around saying no.” This extract shows how this parent felt that using compassionate parenting helped with managing the onset of a possible meltdown.
Participant 9 (NL): “So, for example, you could just sit with her and you get a punch in the face, but you have no idea why and she is so strong and you feel flabbergasted and the first thing you want to do is ask what did I do to deserve this? Then I say, you hurt your dad a lot and I’ve no idea what I did. Then genuinely she says I’m sorry dad, I’m sorry that I did it, I’m sorry I hit you.” This extract demonstrates how a violent act toward the parent was met with kindness and compassion, which led to the child eventually regretting and apologising for the action.
3.3. Theme 3: Challenges and Limitations
Participant 7 (NL): “I have my own company and I am busy not only in work but outside work and you’re thinking fast, and I want to get things done fast, but the kid doesn’t understand this.”
Participant 8 (NL): “When there isn’t enough time then you know I don’t have the patience for it. So I think it’s important but it’s only possible to do it in my own time, I have to really think about compassionate parenting when it’s hard (at difficult times) but not in the moment (when everything calms down) I think maybe I have to chill out first and figure out how to sort out this problem and that’s probably the hardest part.”
Participant 10 (NL): “When you have a second child and one child is crying and crying and the other is getting depressed and crying as well. Then I learned, first look after the toddler and then the baby. That was difficult and sometimes you might feel like you’re a bad parent because one is crying and crying and you’re attending the toddler first and then the baby because he is more difficult to handle.”
3.4. Theme 4: A Need for Greater Awareness, Acceptance, and Support
Participant 3 (UK): “I’d like to see more awareness, more open-mindedness, and not be so stuck in a square box that people accept. You know there are a lot of parents out there that do not have the knowledge. It’s really disappointing, people get so tired and exhausted that they don’t have a husband or someone to support them.”
Participant 1 (UK): “Local governance, there is a lot of fighting, there is no appreciation for the costs and the effort involved to put any program in place for ASD children. I don’t know if it’s the budget cuts or what but getting help is quiet. The government won’t fund ABA support.”
3.5. Cross-Cultural Analysis Summary (RQ2)
4. Discussion
4.1. Limitations
4.2. Implications
4.3. Further Research
5. Conclusions
Author Contributions
Funding
Institutional Review Board Statement
Informed Consent Statement
Data Availability Statement
Conflicts of Interest
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Theme 1: (A View that Compassionate Parenting Is Important) | Theme 2: (Compassionate Parenting Improves Quality of Life) | Theme 3: (Challenges and Limitations to a Compassionate Parenting Style) | Theme 4: (A Need for Greater Awareness, Acceptance, and Support) |
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A critical view of compassionate parenting Compassion as a tool in a toolbox Manipulation of compassion | An example demonstrating when compassion worked | Concerns of child manipulating the situation | A sense of general autism awareness |
Creates calm opportunities for development | Extreme meltdowns | A sense of social inclusion | |
Opportunity for the child to learn and model compassion | In public, pressure on parents to follow cultural norms | An understanding society | |
Parenting can be difficult and stressful | Recurring non-conforming behaviours helped by a compassionate parenting style | Low energy | Critical society |
Positive view of compassion | Reduces stress and de-escalates tension | New experiences | Generational differences causing stressful situations |
Financial costs with outside assistance are high | Supports mental preparation | Other demands | Governmental funding cuts |
Stresses of parenting ASD children | Stress | Hope for the future | |
Supporting ASD characteristics | Time constraints | Institutional support | |
Needed to fight for support | |||
Parents funding autism child development plan |
No | Theme | Example Participant Excerpt |
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1 | Theme 1: (A view that compassionate parenting is important) RQ1 | “I think it’s extremely important to do, I don’t know how to do it any other way, the positives are she is less stressed, less anxious and she feels understood. I’m hoping to give her the resilience that she needs with compassionate parenting to be able to be self-aware. If we can have that empathy or compassion, then the person will feel heard and valued. I think it will rub off at some stage and then they will show compassion. A positive thing is that there is more harmony in the family. Everything runs smoothly and everything is functioning. Everything is fine and I think my child is thinking that mummy understands me, and I have a voice and I can have my opinion and I am a person.” |
2 | Theme 2: RQ1 (compassionate parenting improves quality of life) | “I don’t know about my child but I’m less angry, less annoyed, and more understanding. As a household we’re more emotionally intelligent. If I’m going to react badly to him for not communicating properly, then that’s going to put him down even more and have a worse quality of life. I learned from past events that understanding your child makes a difference because life experiences are stressful. Listening to your child is very important for the standard of living. Parents need to listen to the child; you cannot rely on someone else to do it.” |
3 | Theme 3: RQ1 (challenges and limitations to a compassionate parenting style) | “When there isn’t enough time then you know I don’t have the patience for it. So I think it’s important but it’s only possible to do it in my own time, I have to really think about compassionate parenting when it’s hard (at difficult times) but not in the moment (when everything calms down) I think maybe I have to chill out first and figure out how to sort out this problem and that’s probably the hardest part. So, the point is, the decision is how tired I am. If I’m too tired to deal with this, then another time is fine. I have my own company and I am busy not only in work but outside work and you’re thinking fast, and I want to get things done fast, but the kid doesn’t understand this.” |
4 | Theme 4: RQ1 (a need for greater awareness, acceptance, and support) | “They’re very aware that autism exists here in the Netherlands, but they basically don’t know how to recognise autism, they know about this but they don’t know how to recognise it. Here in Holland the government is making it more difficult to find resources, but my wife and I are educated enough to find a way, but you hear a lot of parents that sometimes have fewer capabilities to find access to resources, to find support. And I think for these parents’ life can be a real living hell because they have to ask for everything. You have to find everything which used to be a lot easier before in the past but now it’s getting very difficult. We had to fight ourselves. If we didn’t even have half the rights of what we have now for sure my wife and I would be divorced. I’m sure that it’s scary that a lot of parents out there are in that situation.” |
No | Theme | UK Observations n = 6 | NL Observations n = 5 |
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1 | Theme 1: RQ2 (a view that compassionate parenting is important) | Compassionate parenting utilised in combination with permissive and authoritative styles. Compassion viewed as a very important aspect of parenting. | Compassionate parenting utilised in combination with authoritarian and authoritative styles. Compassion viewed as a very important aspect of parenting. |
2 | Theme 2: RQ2 (compassionate parenting improves quality of life) | A view that children respond better to compassionate communication. Compassionate mindset leads to being better prepared, leading to the avoidance of irritation triggers. A view that compassion has positive effects on emotional state of the family unit. | A view that compassion improves child behaviour and interpersonal relationships. Compassionate mindset leads to being better prepared, leading to the avoidance of irritation triggers. A view that compassion has positive effects on emotional state of the family unit. |
3 | Theme 3: RQ2 (challenges and Limitations to a compassionate parenting style) | A view that social stigma makes it difficult to practice companionate parenting in public for not disciplining their child when having a meltdown. Fatigue and frustrations and lead to harsh reactions instead of compassion. Time demands and daily pressures make is difficult to be compassionate | A sense of needing to practice an authoritative parenting style in some public settings. Fatigue and frustrations and lead to harsh reactions instead of compassion. Time demands and daily pressures make is difficult to be compassionate. |
4 | Theme 4: RQ2 (a need for greater awareness, acceptance, and support) | Perception that a lack of awareness of autism exists in society. Access to support frustrating and difficult. A view that specialised support is missing. | Perception that society is aware and accepting of autism, however engagement lacking. Access to support straightforward however becoming more difficult. A view that specialised support is available but limited variety. |
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Curley, K.; Kotera, Y. Qualitative Investigation into the Perception towards Compassionate Parenting among Parents of Autistic Children: Cross-Cultural Comparison between the UK and The Netherlands. Healthcare 2023, 11, 1199. https://doi.org/10.3390/healthcare11081199
Curley K, Kotera Y. Qualitative Investigation into the Perception towards Compassionate Parenting among Parents of Autistic Children: Cross-Cultural Comparison between the UK and The Netherlands. Healthcare. 2023; 11(8):1199. https://doi.org/10.3390/healthcare11081199
Chicago/Turabian StyleCurley, Kenneth, and Yasuhiro Kotera. 2023. "Qualitative Investigation into the Perception towards Compassionate Parenting among Parents of Autistic Children: Cross-Cultural Comparison between the UK and The Netherlands" Healthcare 11, no. 8: 1199. https://doi.org/10.3390/healthcare11081199